17. Rubberbands and Sweatshirts

17. Rubberbands and Sweatshirts

Rubberbands 

To understand rubberbands we first need to first understand script beliefs, and in turn our own life position that engineers ourselves, others and the environment to use people and events to reinforce our life position.

Some part of the presenting reality matches the a part of our frame of reference – the need to search for a part of the frame of reference in people, circumstances or events is called transference and connecting to it is transferential relating. 

We in the process of making it fit our frame our reference engage in discounting using the mechanism called redefining. 

Even one single event of our life in childhood, in teenage years, in youth, upon getting married, upon having children shifts gears in our life which instantenously makes us script ridden on facing a person (spouse / boss / associate) and we become a meek victim either as one up or one down.

Going indoors, becoming frozen, hiding behind doors or curtains or tables in office are all situations that represent such transference which may be called for convenience reach-backs and the imagined item used to connect our present to our past and get us to live out the past in the present is called rubber-band and the resulting activity is called rubber-banding and as if putting a mask on another person’s face or life situation or condition (called relating transferentially) and acting out as we did in past times stated earlier.

Sweatshirts

Sweatshirts are pieces of apparel we wear where the front has the logo of what we are seeking matching the position on the drama triangle we are seeking to enter and on the back of the sweatshirt matches the last position on the drama triangle before exiting with the payoff. 

So on the front may be help me – Victim role and on the back Kick Me = Victim Role.

Or On the front let me help you – Rescuer role and on the back – Kick Me – Victim Role

Studying sweatshirts get us to know that the logos may be different as yet role on drama triangle may be the same.

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