17. Rubberbands and Sweatshirts
17. Rubberbands and Sweatshirts Rubberbands To understand rubberbands we first need to first understand script beliefs, and in turn our own life position that engineers ourselves, others and the environment to use people and events to reinforce our life position. Some part of the presenting reality matches the a part of our frame of reference – the need to search for a part of the frame of reference in people, circumstances or events is called transference and connecting to it is transferential relating. We in the process of making it fit our frame our reference engage in discounting using the mechanism called redefining. Even one single event of our life in childhood, in teenage years, in youth, upon getting married, upon having children shifts gears in our life which instantenously makes us script ridden on facing a person (spouse / boss / associate) and we become a meek victim either as one up or one down. Going indoors, becoming frozen, hiding behind doors or curta...