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01. Sensations, Affects Feelings Emotions https://racketstopicfromajitkarve.blogspot.com/2023/04/01-sensations-affects-feelings-emotions.html 02. Six basic emotions https://racketstopicfromajitkarve.blogspot.com/2023/04/01-sensations-affects-feelings-emotions.html 03. Twelve Emotions Expanded List https://racketstopicfromajitkarve.blogspot.com/2023/04/03-12-emotions-expanded-list.html 04. Wheel of feelings and emotions https://racketstopicfromajitkarve.blogspot.com/2023/04/04-wheel-of-emotions.html 05. Genuine Feelings and their roles https://racketstopicfromajitkarve.blogspot.com/2023/04/05-genuine-feelings.html 06. Authentic Feelings and their roles https://racketstopicfromajitkarve.blogspot.com/2023/04/06-authentic-feelings.html 07. Rackets as Racket Feelings – Berne’s view https://racketstopicfromajitkarve.blogspot.com/2023/04/topic-07-rackets-as-racket-feelings.html 08. Racket Feelings and their characteristic features https://racketstopicfromajitkarve.blogspot.com/2023/04/08-ra...

01. Sensations, Affects, Feelings, Emotions Sensations :  Sensations are sensory perceptions. They generate awareness by physical (by five organs of sensing) and by mental and psychological faculties. Sensations generate affects.  Affects :  Affects – affects are pre personal. They are non conscious experiences of intensity.  Affects are unformed and most abstract. Affects prepare body for action. Affects convert to feelings through identification and naming with words  (language). Feelings :  Meanings : Feeling Is a verbal noun denoting action of the mind. Feeling is also a perception of events. Feeling is awareness of our body of something in it or on it. Feelings are sensations labeled through experience, language and biography.  Affects convert to feelings through identification and naming with words (language). This is a key to understanding rackets and racket feelings. Quite a few of the useful feelings such as of joy, happiness, success, pride, ...

02. Six Basic Emotions  Psychologist Paul Eckman identified six basic emotions that he suggested were universally experienced in all human cultures during the 1970s.  The six basic emotions are : Happiness or Joyfulness or Happy or Joy Sad or Sadness Anger or Angry  Fear  Surprise  and  Disgust These emotions are readable by expressions on our faces.  Later he expanded the list to include Pride  Shame  Embarrassment  Excitement

03. Expanded list of Twelve Emotions   Carroll Izard at the University of Delaware factor analytically delineated twelve discrete emotions labeled:  Interest, Joy, Surprise, Sadness, Anger, Disgust,  Contempt, Self-Hostility, Fear, Shame, Shyness, and Guilt. (as measured via his Differential Emotions Scale or DES-IV).

04. Wheel of Emotions  Picture of Wheel of Feelings and Emotions

05. Genuine Feelings Genuine feelings are felt or expressed authentically and sincerely. They are not faked or displayed pretentiously. Genuine feelings are real feelings — not fake feelings put on as a show. Berne describes in terms of what infants and children in early childhood display.  Some related examples : A genuine blonde is a real blonde — no hair dye involved.  A genuine friend is a real friend you can trust when the chips are down.  A genuine hundred dollar bill is the real McCoy, not a counterfeit bill. 

06. Authentic Feelings  They are felt and expressed  Feeling the feelings  1. Offer Experience  2. Offer Knowledge and Understanding  3. Call upon us to take action  4. Offer fulfillment and fullness  5. Inform us what our core (conscience), ego (ahamkriti), mind, body, bodily systems, are speaking / saying Expressed Feelings  1. Gain in receiving and giving strokes  2. Generate Recognition  3. Generate love, affection, cordiality,  4. Build Relationships and Associations  5. Get us help, assistance, consideration and cooperation  6. Help end situations and solve problems 

07. Rackets as Racket Feelings – Berne’s view of Racket in Glossary Hello Book Racket The sexualization and transactional seeking and exploitation of unpleasant feelings.  Berne Writes in Hello pg 165  During this period Jeder makes a decision about what f«elings he will work for. He has previously experimented with this, feeling by tums angry, hut, guilty, scared, inadequate, righteous, and triumphant, and has discovered that certain of these are treated with indifference or outright disapproval by his family, while one of them is acceptable and gets results. That is the one that becomes his racket. The favored feeling becomes a sort of conditioned reflex which may persist for the rest of his life.

08. Racket Feelings and their Characteristic Features Racket Feelings are Inauthentic feelings Substitute feelings Learnt by Parenting Repetitive Attention Seeking Have a Manipulative Quality Escalate when questioned Used for extracting strokes Scripty Outside Adult Awareness Usually origins in Child Berne's List is short :  Angry, hurt, guilty, scared, inadequate, righteous and triumphant. Other people list rackets across all feelings. Result in Child Contamination of Adult or in Double Contamination or Adult exclusion.

09. Discounting Thinking, Feeling, Love, Affection and Joy Rackets are connected to Script. They are Psychological Trading Stamps generators.  They play the same role as do games in the matter. Discounting is unawarely ignoring information relevant to ending of a situation or solution of a problem.  Areas 3 - Self, Others, World.  Types 3 - Of Stimulus, Of Problem and Of Using Options  Levels 4 - Awareness, Significance, Problem / Solvability, Personal Ability Claude Steiner points out that Discounting of the five things results in Mindless, Loveless and Joyless Scripts. As yet it is important to note that the parents were not educated enough that children need to learn to know about thinking, all the feelings, and love etc. by identifying, and naming them or only then can they be experienced and used.

10. Rackets Salient Features An introduction - pace setter We need to be loving, affectionate, compassionate, considerate, helpful, happy, joyful, assertive, requesting, fun loving.  Unfortunately there is no curriculum to teach parents about the need to teach their children these feelings, emotions and mannerisms about how to express themselves. There is no syllabus in nursery, primary and middle schools either for these purposes.  Children face no, I say no, don't, keep away, and are also punished in very many ways not to say threatened with distancing, isolation, repoting to spouse, teacher, parents etc. The opposite of the listed feelings are reported or pointed out or told not to be them. Like don't cry, don't sit quiet, don't be afraid, don't sit here, don't stand there etcetera without providing children with alternatives. Thus the desirable are not delivered and the not desirable are delivered even repeated frequently by not to say only physical, but als...

11. Rackets -  Gallows Laugh Gallows is a communication which is accompanied by a gallows laugh. Such a communication (TA Today) qualifies to be a racket.  The laugh or smile which accompanies a gallows transaction, and which is usually shared by the others present (Hello Glossary) qualifies to be a racket. A transaction which leads directly toward the script payoff is caled gallows transaction (Hello Glossary) qualifies to be a racket. Scripty laughs 1. Heh, Heh, Heh is the Parental chuckle of the witch mother or ogre father is a scripty laugh 2. HaHaHa is Adult's chuckle of rueful humor is a gallows laugh 3. HeHeHe is the Child's laugh when he is going to pull a fast one is a gallows laugh Hello 377 these qualify to be rackets. It is important to note that there are Parent's HoHoHo HaHaHa and WowWow from Child which are not gallows.

12. Rackets - Shadripus  Shadripus are six enemies of a healthy mind. The Shadripus which are in the nature of mental states of  kama - desire,  krodha - anger,  lobha - greed,  madah - ego, sense of attachment, belief in I   moha - attachment,  matsya - partiality  count to be rackets Because they are inauthentic and scripty.

13. Racket, Rackets, Racketing and Racketeering The Racket as pointed out by Berne is sexualisation of transactional seeking. Rackets are feelings. Rackets are also  acts, doing, performing, behaving, talking, expressing, interacting, thinking, evaluating, assessing – in fact anything inauthentic Racketing occurs when persons do things of sorts to attract attention of others for the reason of extracting strokes. They are sets of scripty behaviours employed outside Adult awareness as a means of manipulating the environment and entail in the person experiencing racket feelings when they are noticed (by self or others) and stroked for the wrong reason. Setting up Rackets - The person outside of awareness sets up a condition that generates a situation that counts as racketing. I board the train and remember as I sit that I am not carrying a valid ticket and then argue angrily with the conductor to allow me to travel. This engagement gets me to experience racket feelings of my choice li...

14. Psychological Trading Stamps Psychological Trading Stamps are collections of payoffs of angers, hate, disgust, resentment, hurts, pain, insults, sorrow, feeling saddened, guilt, anxiety, helplessness, hopelessness, feeling empty, blamed, wronged, etcetera are stamps that are collected for a final show down such as a bodily ailment, mental affliction, drowning in addiction, going crazy, choosing suicide or homicide, landing behind bars, becoming bankrupt, suffering huge financial losses among many others. Steiner explains them at length under mindlessnessness, lovelessness, and joylessness as patterns of discounting which count as rackets, racketing and racketeering.  We can match stamps with the degrees of games and scripts as first degree,, second degree and third degree samps. Their outcomes show up as gossip material, hurt relationships, blood, money, accidents or death. 

15. Transactional Rackets Racket is the sexualisation and transactional seeking and exploitation of unpleasant feelings. Inauthentic feelings which are attended to in childhood through being criticised, praised by telling others, person being labelled, or attributions given get sexualised or become subsititues for sexual feelings and later become justified. Justified by being labelled angry like father or so and so or shy, lazy, good for nothing, mischievous and person using it to protect oneself even profess.  Indiscriminate exposure of body or talking, walking or presenting oneself in a manner which gets others attracted in the game of rapo or dry rapo, alcoholic, etcetera are also transactional rackets and racketing alongside formula G formulated games.

16. Rackets – Stamps – Games - Scripts This topic is stated separately to highlight how games and rackets together fulfill the six psychological hungers which are the primary source of trapping people to meet needs in the service of script.

17. Rubberbands and Sweatshirts Rubberbands  To understand rubberbands we first need to first understand script beliefs, and in turn our own life position that engineers ourselves, others and the environment to use people and events to reinforce our life position. Some part of the presenting reality matches the a part of our frame of reference – the need to search for a part of the frame of reference in people, circumstances or events is called transference and connecting to it is transferential relating.  We in the process of making it fit our frame our reference engage in discounting using the mechanism called redefining.  Even one single event of our life in childhood, in teenage years, in youth, upon getting married, upon having children shifts gears in our life which instantenously makes us script ridden on facing a person (spouse / boss / associate) and we become a meek victim either as one up or one down. Going indoors, becoming frozen, hiding behind doors or curta...

18. Rackets and Time Structuring There are six types of social time structuring. They are: 1. Withdrawal 2. Rituals 3. Activity 4. Pastimes 5. Games 6. Intimacy It is evident that rituals, activity, pastimes and intimacy do not meet the needs of rackets or racketing or racketeering as feeling or activity.  Yes to some extent rituals could meet the need when it is done to make a show or create influence or show alliegiance etcetera. Then it constitutes racketing. We loose connect with the prevailing reality when we are in withdrawal and we spend time in mind talk or thinking feeling down-spins or worrying or smarting in a variety of racket feelings - it then constitutes racketing. Payoffs of games are racket feelings. The switch in formula G is a racketing move, time spent in cross-up is spending time in racket feelings and also racketing by way of justifying and protecting our point of view.

19. Ending Rackets and Games We need to acknowledge that rackets and games service five of the six psychological hungers to maintain the script and keep it going. Our many efforts to end rackets and games will fail because they service the script. Script has inertia and maintains its stability. Therefore it will keep on devising new strategies to keep it going. Berne writes in Hello Chapter 3 that a script is an ongoing life plan formed in early childhood under parental pressure. It is the psychological force which propels the person toward his destiny, regardless of whether he fights it or says it is his own free will. Therefore getting rid of rackets and games can happen when a conducive environment is created for the purpose. This can be done by freeing the Free Child and empowering the Adult thereby creating an environment for building a healthy relationship between the affective and cognitive aspects of our personality.  Thereafter one gets the capacity to deal with rackets an...

20. Personal Growth Points The goals of transactional analysis practice are recovering the capacities for  1. OK ness – OK Ok relating 2. Capacity for thinking 3. Capacity for making new choices, new conclusions and  new decisions. 4. Leaving the old behind and starting life afresh based on new choices, new conclusions and new decisions Then the next sets of goals are regaining the capacity for  1. Awareness 2. Authenticity 3. Autonomy Then the next sets of goals are regaining the capacity for  1. Problem Solving 2. Decision Making Then the next sets of goals are 1. Ok-Ok relating 2. Engaging in open honest communications 3. Game free interactions 4. Authentic relationships 5. Script free living Then the final set of goals are 1. To gift myself to be born a real person 2. Live in a Real Life 3. In a Real World 4. With due consideration for others And finally by sheddng being a frog and being born to live the life of a prince or pri...